I think tumblr has left a lot of us emotionally stunted. This is a great community for empowerment, catharsis, or coping, but those things aren’t recovery in and of themselves. Comparatively, they’re easy when compared to the painful self-reflection and real-world scenarios you’ll have to encounter on the road to true recovery. Not only does Tumblr not focus enough on recovery, but there’s almost a disdain here for the very notion.
There’s a lot of time spent validating everything. “Your symptoms are valid! Your responses are valid! Your depression is valid! Your coping is valid!” Well, yeah, all that stuff is definitely valid, and understanding that is important step in recovery, but it’s certainly not the final step. All that stuff is valid in the same way a baby chewing on a teething ring is valid, and there’s nothing to be embarrassed about if your recovery is still in its infancy, but Tumblr almost encourages you to stay there, to never grow out of it.
There’s a difference between what’s valid and what’s healthy, what’s best for you. I recently saw a post that validated people who stay in their room all day. Is that a valid response to anxiety? Sure. Is it a healthy response? Hell no, and there isn’t a person on Earth who can convincingly make the argument that the best thing you can do for your anxiety is to never leave your room.
Or how about those “how to care for a _________” posts? They’ve got some great tips there, and a lot of what they say is true, but you cannot reasonably expect people to coddle your issues, insecurities, or self-perceived inadequacies. Your recovery has to come from you. It has to be a difficult decision you make with yourself and carry through with because you need it. Your recovery can’t come from hoping other people will validate you.
No one should be ashamed of where they are in their recovery process, but there’s also no reason why you should be in the same place with your issues as you were in 2010.
Your final goal is not validation. It isn’t empowerment. It isn’t finding a way to get through the day. It isn’t being comfortable with your problems, nor is it accepting that they’ll never go away. The final goal is health. The final goal is happiness. The final goal is contentment. The final goal is recovery.
I was talking with some pals last night, and Mike told me that he got better at drawing by staring at this image until he “understood it.” (from Eric Goldberg’s “Character Animation Crash Course”)
The first image is drawing anatomical/construction first, gesture second. The second image is drawing the gesture/expression first, then the anatomy second. The first image produces stiff character acting, the second image produces explosive character acting.
I’m gonna stare at it too until I understand it. Come on, stare with me.
i’ve been struggling with how to explain what i mean by applying the concepts of ‘tweening’ vs ‘drawing straight ahead’ to non-animated work and this is probably the best example i’ve found so far
WHEN IT CLICKS YOU’RE LIKE “oooooo……..OOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”
ZELDA REDESIGN THING PART 1 OUT OF ???: MIDNA
ok so anyone who knows my Zelda Opinions knows that I think midna’s design is wack and the execution of her character is just awful. she’s written like a stereotypical fanfic oc: has way more powers than she needs to function as a character and literally has powers that only show up 1 time to look cool, carrier of a predictable plot twist, establisher of a weird lame ‘other girls vs me’ kind of thing between her and Princess Z, etc. This would be my attempt at retooler her into something that makes more sense.
IMP FORM: Ditched the sex appeal entirely because it was totally creepy, made her a miniblin-ish type impbeast instead and also made her more resemble the other twili who were cursed by zant in her markings and such. Aside from being able to help Link cross through the twilit portals and warping through those, she has no powers because c’mon she could fly wtf and why would Zant leave her with so many powers to fight him with. So, she’d be a powerless, ugly little monster whose cocky snarky attitude and big talk is a cover for how helpless Zant’s curse has made her, instead of being a very powerful ‘sexy’ imp thing who can fly and shapeshift and all this other crap and why does she even need link when she can teleport and fly and aaaaugh.
TRUE FORM: tried to make her look more like something in line with the other twili, or at least Zant. seriously all the other twili are warped from being this race that’s lived in all but total darkness for generations with varied, wonky proportions, but then she’s a curvacious sexy babe whose only claim to nonhuman-ness is having extreme bedroom eyes and being kinda tall for a lady. why. so here she is looking more like queen of the weird darkness dwelling monster people! her flirtation with Link would remain but kinda take on a different vibe, being a horrible monster lady. I mean, imagine the terror of being told “you’re just so cute I could eat you up!!” when you know the person saying it is PERFECTLY CAPABLE OF DOING EXACTLY THAT.
why do people avoid happy backstories like theyre the fuckin plague jesus christ stop listening to linkin park for a moment and realize you dont need to be miserable to have character development
the most beautiful, moving, emotional words you’ll ever hear in your lifetime
"i watched/played/read this because of you"
ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?
During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?”
In all seriousness, she answered “How did you know?”
"Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind." replied the author.
Here’s the answer:
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.
People in love sometimes say, I was swept of my feet. Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this)
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: the universe determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go!
I actually started filling this out in August, and I thought now would be a good time to finish this.
To be honest, I’m not entirely sure how to feel about 2013. I mean, in a general not-just-talking-about-art way it wasn’t bad; I (finally) finished the AAOT, so that’s out of the way, and I think I did well saving up my money for the most part. Art-wise I got really experimental, specifically with colors, and I ended up getting more of a taste on storyboarding by (attempting) to make my own short.
Although, really… the amount I drew (besides doodling) really deteriorated during the later part of the year. This year my schedules tended to be busier, and I wasn’t used to really trying to push to make time for art. I mean, when it was just school, I had a lot of time I could use for art. This year I had a hard time pushing myself to do anything besides doodle on some paper for half an hour (or less) whenever I was lazing around at home.
But now, since I’ve got all the general classes out of the way, I’m kind of at a stand still on what’s the next step I should take. (Look for a job in my desired field? Apply to colleges? Both?) So it looks like I’ll have the time to catch up on what I missed this past year!
AND NOW SOME RESOLUTIONS FOR MYSELF FOR 2014
-FUCKING SET ASIDE HOURS TO WORK ON ART
-AND TIME YOURSELF GDI BITCH
-AND STOP GETTING ON TUMBLR SO MUCH FUCKING THIS IS THE WORST PROBLEM
-Keep exploring with colorrrrr
-Explore with mixed media? :’D I’ve got so much painting and watercolor supplies sitting around, I should try them out!
-ATTEND ALL THE FIGURE DRAWING SESSIONS IN THE AREA or at least go to one a week
-UPDATE THAT MOTHERFUCKING PORTFOLIO oh man does it need updating *sob*
-Study more storyboards/character designs/concept work in movies
-CLEAN YOUR ROOM SO YOU HAVE ROOM FOR THAT ART DESK YOUR BOYFRIEND BOUGHT YOU LAST FUCKING YEAR
yes I think those are some good resolutions
(Template’s over here.)
After today’s daily I think this should be the Meta Knight reveal.
Incomplete list of blogs for artists. If you know of any blog that wasn’t listed here, let us know!
Art Tutorial Blogs
Amazingly Artistic Advice - Tutorials and references
Artist Advice - Tutorials and art help
Artist Central - Tutorials and references
Artist Video Playset - Art tutorial videos
Artists Help - Tutorials and references
Art Tutorials - Tutorials, references and resources
Eyecaging - Tips, references and resources
Fuck Yeah Art Tips - Tutorials and references
How to Art - Tutorials and references
Paint Bucket Resources - Tutorials, references and resources
Practice Makes Perfect - Tutorials and references
ShareWeCare - Tutorials, critiques and promotions
The Art References - Tutorials and references
Tutorials and Refs - Tutorials and references
WannabeAnimator - Tutorials, tips and references
Critique and Art Help Blogs
Artisteem - Critiques and art help (submission and ask based)
Art Promotion Blogs
Artist Promotions - Commission and art promotions
Artist Motivation - Commission and art promotions
Artist Yellow Pages - Commission promotions
Artist Support - Commission and art promotions
FYeah Artist Promos - Commission and art promotions
PayPal Commissioners - Commission promotions
The Art We Love - Art promotions
Archi/maps - Architecture references
Art of Swords - Swords from various time periods
Gorgeous Long Haired Men - Photos of men
Goth For Men - Androgynous and male-focused goth fashion blog
Hot Guys With Long Hair - Photos of men
Katalepsja - Photos of androgynous male models
Long Haired Fetish - Photos of men (posts occasionally nsfw)
Old Rags - Clothes references from various time periods
OMG That Dress - Clothes references from various time periods
Art Inspiration Blogs
Fuck Yeah Concept Art - Concept art inspiration
Art Challenge Blogs
Weekly Art Challenges - Art challenges
STAG - (Skype Tumblr Artists Group), networking
A little table to how to get rid of all that negative self-talk. We have to learn look at the good in situations too, instead of dwelling on things we can’t change- because you know what? We may not be able to change what is happening but we CAN change how we view it!These are all great but I feel the 2nd to last is particularly noteworthy for how many complaints I see about it on tumblr